The last time someone told you to "relax," did it work? Or did you have the urge to throat punch them?
Release or Relax.
Contractions or Waves.
C-Section or Cesarean Birth or Belly Birth.
Dilating or Opening,
Effacing or Thinning.
Words matter. They can be gentle when needed. Doula care brings in a gentleness to your birth space. Labour is hard work. We strive to soften the edges, reminding you of your strength. Using our voice as a comfort measure tool to remind you to release versus "relax."
The word “relax” can have a hardness to it, depending on your history. “Contraction” can feel harsh to the ear, labour already is hard work... bringing words in that may resonate more for you like wave, surge, or rush can add softness to your mindset. And therefore your body. Your Doula knows you. And sees you.
There may be moments when you need to be face-to-face with your doula so they can take breaths with you, or to tell you you need to do hard things, that you CAN do the hard things, but their eyes will be soft. Because that softness matters; that gentleness when your strength is needed the most can be everything. Your Doula knows you. And sees you.
If you've been thinking about bringing Doula care into your birth team, click "here." We can hook you up.
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